Science Supports the Need for Casual Sex Flirting

Casual sex movies make it all seem so easy. Two people meet up at a bar, share a quick drink, and then are seen passionately bouncing off hallway walls as they try to get each other’s clothes off. But is it really all so simple? And if it is, then why aren’t all bar room hallways bursting at the seams with horny hookups? The answer is…they’re not and the science behind attraction and a woman’s desire for casual sex gives a little insight into why.

In several studies, the original one conducted in 1989 and a follow-up one conducted more recently, both men and women were asked if they would have casual sex with a platonic friend – a friends with benefits arrangement – or if they would have casual sex with a complete stranger. In both studies it showed that men were more likely to agree to a quickie than their female counterpart. So if you are a man and want to get a more favorable response to the question, “Will you go to bed with me?” there are few basic things that you need to understand about the women who are most likely to say yes.

Whether you meet a potential partner through an adult online dating site, through a friend, or in a pub, the basics of getting that person to agree to a one night stand or no strings attached relationship include a little flirting. Yes, even with casual sex you need a little flirting.

Science has suggested two theories explaining what women look for. The first theory reaches back to our caveman roots and the evolutionary reasons for having sex – survival of the species. In this explanation the woman needs to be choosy about their hook up mate since they expect them to stick around to help change diapers and buy formula. They want a man they can depend on.

The second theory is one that we can better get our minds around when talking about casual sex and that is the Pleasure Theory. We are all hardwired to pursue pleasure. This is the type of wiring that you guys need to stand up and take notice of. Yes, woman will be more likely to say yes to a casual relationship when they perceive that they are going to get a little pleasure from it…or more likely, a lot of pleasure. Women want to orgasm and they will be more willing to give it a shot with a guy (or girl) that is likely to provide it.

So let’s put the two theories together and create a better mousetrap. Guys, if you want casual sex then you need to convince a woman that they can depend on you to give them an orgasm!

How is this done? Well, to discover that you may just want to follow me and get some advice on some good old fashioned flirting and seduction. That is something that never goes out of style no matter if it’s casual sex or true love sex that you are after.

Sexually Loving You

The art of love making is a very sensual and pleasurable experience for humans when done right. Real intimacy makes us feel wanted and desired like there is no one else out there for me BUT you. There is almost a sense of “I’ve made it” when your partner experiences the sensitivity of your skin next to theirs as you embark on a climatic experience. It is just you and me baby and that is all that matters, right?

Not always unfortunately. The truth is all too often once the act of sexual intercourse is over; those feelings of being wanted and desired seem to fizzle away. We become so busy with our day to day lives that so many times we see our partners as sexual objects and not our love partners. We just want to get down to the “business” and then go to sleep once it is all said and done. All too often this may leave our partners feeling empty and unappreciated.

However, experiencing pure sexual intimacy goes beyond the actual act of intercourse. It is about learning to appreciate and love the person you are with no matter how big or small they are. To sexually love your partner is to love them for every perfect thing and every flaw they may have. You love your mate from the inside out and not the other way around. Real intimacy is unconditional and forgiving. It does not hurt your partner but promotes essential healing throughout one’s being. When intimacy is felt throughout your partner’s being, there are no mountains or hills that cannot be climbed as your partner knows that the two of you are totally connected in mind and body.

So you might ask “why should I love my partner from the inside out?” Simply put it makes your partner feel secure in the relationship. Your partner knows that they have what it takes to keep you satisfied. This level of security and satisfaction helps to add a new dimension of trust within the relationship as you bare it all when your bodies are connected. Basically you feel a sense of commitment to each other.

So if you have not appreciated your mate today rather than saying let’s get to the “business” try telling them how you feel about them. Make your partner feel special by giving them a nice back rub or putting on that special perfume (cologne) that drives them wild. Better yet make them a love card or write a poem letting them know how much you love their being from the inside out. Then you will learn to sexually love your partner and get down to the “business.” Learn to love your affair with YOUR mate and not with someone else’s.

April Lisbon-Peoples is a relationship coach who enjoys inspiring her clients to find the relationship they deserve. She is the founder and CEO of Running Your Race, a coaching practice designed for individuals and couples who are ready to awaken their creative visions for their present relationship or a relationship they desire to have.

Sex Instructional Videos – Watch and Learn!

Although it’s evident that people nowadays are educated in the matter of sex, there are still those who need a little bit of help in that department. Whether you’re just starting out to become sexually active, or you’re in a relationship with a dwindling sex life, sex instructional videos may just be the thing you need. Sex can become quite a sensual and pleasurable activity, as long as you know exactly what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Let sex instructional videos teach you a thing or two, and who knows? You might just discover as whole new side to you.

Sex instructional videos are great as it can help you spice up your bedroom routine with your lover. With different tips and techniques that you can learn from these videos, you’ll be able to become a better sexual partner. These videos can also help you let go of your inhibitions and your partner’s as well and teach you to be more confident in your own skin, no matter what body type you have. And because it’s highly recommended that you watch sex instructional videos with your lover, it can also possibly help strengthen the relationship.

You may be thinking, what makes sex instructional vids any different from porn videos? Though both videos will show people having sexual intercourse, you’ll actually learn something from instructional videos as it usually includes a narrative or a step by step guide. Whereas sex instructional videos aim to give you a better understanding of your body and how you can work it during sex, porn on the other hand will just show people having sex. If you think that sex is just like what you’ve seen on porn movies, you’ll be surprised to know that there is more to it than just the act itself. There’s foreplay, there’s romance and there are techniques that can help you make the whole act a mind blowing experience.

If you’re interested to know how you can your hands on sex instructional videos, you have a few choices. Depending on where you live and how your culture perceives sex, you might find it really easy or a bit challenging to acquire these videos. If you have an adult bookstore or a sex shop in your community, you can start your search there. You can also check stores that sell movies and DVDs and look for the adult section.

You can also look for online sites that sell sex instructional vids if you want to shop in the comforts of your own home. Although you’ll find a wide selection of different titles and types online, do take your time in choosing a video for you. Make sure that you check the production company and the description thoroughly if you don’t want to end up with cheap porn that was packaged as an instructional video. Look up reviews on which titles would be best suited for you. Don’t forget to ask your lover’s opinion on which titles to get so that you can come to a mutual agreement on what type of instructional video would best benefit you both.

The Unconscious Bliss of Divine Sexual Love

MODE of Cosmic Therapy: Immeasurable Love in Action

If I love you, I am totally unconscious of you. You do not exist to me nor does what you do affect me in any way. I am neither moved by your actions, thoughts, inclinations, desires or words. I have no thought in the direction of benefit coming from you for me. Nor is there ever a passing thought of harm to befall me because of you. I neither am disturbed by detrimental occasions that may arise between us. You are absolutely incapable of disappointing, betraying, abandoning, lying or rejecting me for my love does not recognize any level of variance or blatantly blithe imperfection. Nor does I exalt, elevate or revere, or appreciate (depend upon) you. How could I, if I am ubiquitously unaware of you?

I am not fearful of your leaving or ‘growing tired’ of me. I am neither concerned nor bothered by what you think of me. Perfect love cast out all fear. If, on the other hand, I say I love you and then require of you to please, recognize, support, advocate, praise, defend, excuse, or in any way, need something from you, I lie. I do not love you at all, but a desired anticipated response from you. It is impossible for you to be my lover for when true love exists, the lover is not present.

I am not comforted by you, nor am I dissuaded by your capriciously motivated disinterest or persuaded by your flattering apparent waxing/waning moods of joy or discontent. My love sustains me in your presence and will not be influenced nor cater to the indecisive patterns of cyclic vexation or emotionally self-projected happiness. I adore you because I am free of you and not controlled by puppet mimicked ways of cajoled preference. If I prefer one side of your personality more than another, I am futilely superfluous and uproariously vain.

I make no distinctions, nor do I distinguish any faults in/on/about/through you. I love you without boundaries, expectations or restrictions. I do not accommodate, gratify, cater or provide for you, ever. I do what I do simply because I want to do it and for no other reason. In my love for you, do I stand in rapture’s repose devoid of the presence of you or your paranoid jealous anxiety. I am not conscious of your identified loyalty, control and/or need to possess. You can not share with me a quark of definitive committed feelings in exchange for my identification with your need to feel ‘loved.’ I am not moved by you in your deliberate attempts to move me to respond, make me feel guilty or ashamed.

You are not responsible for my devotion, nor do I cherish you because of who, what and why you are. And, certainly not for anything you may perceive as your having done or given to me. I am not obligated to you in any way whatsoever. I owe you nothing as do you owe me the same. Love can not be defined nor managed. My unceasing love is a divine stream of effervescent light which can neither be turned off or on. I love you with all that my soul is capable of and everything outside of it, as well. I embrace the quintessence of your sacred radiance where no corruption abounds. The divine sexual intensity of this lighted love gives and receives life continuously without remiss. We are the product of that faultless impeccable love.

I am infused with a love so brilliant, words can not define nor actions deter. {It envelopes you; erasing you from my earthly eyes of contrary fickle sight.} In the overflowing stream of divine sexuality, I am consistently made unaware of you as the single source of exuberant pleasure which flows but liberally acknowledge the omnificent divinity from which passion does unceasingly gush. The stimulating illuminating effervescent love I embody and embrace lyrically resounds in stereophonic symphonies of bliss. My love for you is without intention and first in execution. I know not how ‘not’ to love you!

My innate forces of delighted concentration are centered upon this undaunted sensual love. My love is incomparable and serenely new in each moment of existence in the experience of you, never reaching the extended heights or descended lows by comparison. I do not wait upon you, nor you me but in the ever evasive spiraling instant of ecstatic pleasure do I know you. By not cleaving to the moment, I am washed clean of the memory of yearning for you which would only interfere with love’s consecrated innocence.

How does one define ineffable love’s erotic bliss? (Without words.) Love would be destroyed in the flash of an instant if I were to remember you or seek any attachment thereof. Now is the only time of flawlessness of love’s united beauty and grace. I can not possibly have an idea of you without it impeding the love I have for you. I must forget every notion I’ve ever devised about you in order to meet you for the first time. And, in order for me to continuously meet you again and again and again, I must remain unconscious of you so that you may be clearly unequivocally revealed. True love, practiced eternally is sublimely dominantly pulsatingly invigoratingly rejuvenating. OH! How I love thee!

I have a BS in Communication with a MA in Art Education. I am an Executive Cosmic Therapist, artist, entertainer, singer/songwriter, musician, composer, playwright, perfumer, professional astrologer, tarot consultant, Numerologist, author, teacher, speaker, poet and self-taught chef.

Can a Sex Instructional Video Help Improve Your Love Life?

Whether you’re young or old, rich or poor, sex is probably one of the most talked about, if not controversial, topics in the whole world. Everyone needs sex, not just for procreation, but for pleasure and strengthening of a relationship as well. You can’t talk about romantic love without including sex in the equation so if you’re currently in a relationship and you want to make your love story last, you should definitely start working on your sex life. But how do you start? Though you’ll find a lot of great ideas online on how you can spice up your love life, there is really only one way that can help you take your sex life up a notch. Want to know what a sex instructional video can do for your relationship? Then don’t hesitate to read on.

Assuming that you and your lover both have open minds towards this subject, a sex instructional video can do wonders for your relationship. But do bear in mind that this option isn’t for everyone. If you’ve just started dating, make sure to have an open discussion with your partner on how he or she feels about using this sort of videos. This way, you’ll be able to avoid causing offense or any awkward moments that may lead to future misunderstandings in the relationship.

Helps You Become A Better Lover

Sure a sex instructional video may not be a necessity in making a relationship work, but it can help you make it stronger. A sex instructional video can help you become a better lover as it can provide you with tips and techniques that will make every sexual encounter worthy to be remembered. From oral techniques to different sex positions, you’ll be able to reinvent yourself as the ultimate lover once you’re done watching the video.

Allows You To Open Your Line Of Communication

Another benefit that you can get from incorporating the sex instructional video into your bedroom routine is that you’ll get a much more open communication line between you and your partner. Just by watching the video together, you’ll feel much more comfortable expressing what you want sexually and your partner will be more open to tell you what he or she would like to try out. When used properly, a sex instructional video will be able to help you form a stronger bond emotionally and physically.

If you’re interested in purchasing sex instructional videos, there are a number of ways that you can easily get your hands on them. First off, check out what your local adult bookstores or sex shops have on offer. Although these shops usually have an extensive line up of different adult videos that you can choose from, make sure that you choose a sex instructional video and not just a porn flick. If you’re not comfortable with the idea of visiting these shops or you just don’t have the time, start your search online instead. The great thing about purchasing online is that you not only have access to a wide array of different titles, but you’ll also get to shop anonymously.

Erotic Adult Lingerie For Women

Often women are so immersed in their outward appearance that they start neglecting what is within. This is the case with many of us women, who are interested in beautifying themselves from the very core, always pay special attention to their choice of under garments. Adult lingerie always had a great role to play in women’s lives.

Adult lingerie comes in a wide variety of sizes and shape. So whether you are a skinny sexy lass or a plus size with alluring curves you can easily choose your adult lingerie from this wide range of sizes. They also offer you to choose from a variety of designs and cuts.

Whereas some stick to your body like a wet swim suit, some may drape around your curves smoothly like a piece of cloth. Some of them are designed especially for special dresses to be worn by you in different occasions. For example you should wear a strapless bra with an off shoulder dress and similarly. Women of today know very well how important it is to match the under wear with your dress.

It is not just the color but also the design and cut of the dress that determine the kind of under wear that should be worn with it in order to look hot and sexy. The wrong underwear can ruin your effort of dressing up completely! So make sure you pick the right adult lingerie when you wear something out of the ordinary.

However, then you wear adult lingerie, you should be able to carry it out with perfect ease and confidence. If you are shy and uncomfortable wearing it, the lingerie alone can not make you the hot babe. But if you have the figure and are proud of it, wearing adult lingerie will only enhance the eroticism within you and nothing in this world can stop your partner from getting excited.

In fact, adult lingerie is one of the most effective tools to arouse excitement in your partner if things have just got stagnated for sometime. Kinky underwear and sexy bras can make him drool and bring back the passion that he had when he met you for the first time.

They can easily spice up your life in a unique way! So if you are one of those people, who still wear the old fashioned, ordinary, trashy undergarments all the time but are really eager to try out something new and exciting, then it is time for you to switch over to adult lingerie. They will not just change the way you look but also the ay you feel at present. They will rekindle the flame of eroticism in your life and help you to reinvent yourself in a very special way!

Watching Adult Sex Videos Together – Movies Make Magic

Although they still have a stigma for many people, watching adult sex videos with your spouse can be a really great way to improve your marriage sex. Available in as many different varieties as there are types of people in the world, you can watch everything from very basic, “soft porn” as it is called to more graphic and experimental types of adult films. Sensual and erotic imagery is both visually and mentally arousing and may even plant an idea or two in your minds for what you would like to try with one another. Rather than being something that only single men watch in the dark, by themselves, while they masturbate, adult films are actually a really effective type of foreplay for many married couples.

Many couples may secretly want to watch an adult film together, but are hesitant because they are afraid to suggest it to their mate. For some women, there is a fear that their husband will find the women on film more attractive than they find them. For some men, there is concern that their wives may be turned off or find fault with their arousal. The reality is that watching adult films together can be a real bonding experience. It may take several tries to find a particular genre of adult film that works for you both, but in most cases, just the simple act of being “naughty” and watching other people getting physical is enough to start something fun for the married couple watching.

If you and your spouse have decided to watch an adult sex video together, then you should discuss what kinds of films are “OK” and which ones are “off limits”. For instance, your spouse may be uncomfortable watching a film that depicts more than one partner at a time. The object of watching an adult sex video together is to get one another turned on, not turned off, so be sensitive to one another’s preferences. One of the benefits of watching a sex video together is that you may get ideas for positions to try out. Also, having the noise in the background may also help lower your spouse’s inhibitions when it comes to expressing their pleasure vocally.

If you are looking for an easy way to improve your marriage sex life, watching adult sex videos together is a great way to start. Sit back, relax, pop in a video and let nature take its course. You may find that you are having the hottest sex of your marriage, in no time flat!

The Joy of Sexual Friendship – The Beauty of Love Life

Experience a change in your sexual love in marriage.

Despite all the abnormal use of sexual relationships in the world today, the beauty and joy of sexual love originated and designed by God cannot fade away. One of the entire processes of becoming one as a couple is through a sexual relationship. There is joy and fulfillment in it especially when it is done within the wall of marriage.

In some churches today, sexual love is considered an area so sacred, and thereby must not be talked about, discussed, or touched in our sermon or highly emphasized. Yet, this has been one of the areas where the devil has been attacking our homes. And I suppose we have to deal with this issue from a different angle. As the saying goes, where the enemy attacks you, there you attack him most.

Broken marriages are not the plans of God they are the designs of men. Some pastors and teachers of God’s word avoid speaking about sex on the pulpit, forgotten that this have been the heart cry of so many who could not enjoy their spouses in marriage. God did not make mistake by making man both male and female. It will do us a lot of good to understand that God who instituted marriage has a beautiful plan for us regarding the area of sex. Therefore, one of the ways to enjoy your marriage is through sexual intimacy between you and your spouse.

YOUR BODY AND YOUR GOD.

You must understand that your body is not your own. It belongs to God who made you. You are not permitted to use it as you want. Imagine you hiring a car and you want to change the color of that car without the consent of the owner. I guess that might put you into a fresh trouble and queries.

Likewise, your body is not what you can use as you like. Any illicit sex with a man or woman outside marriage is considered immoral and sinful. It is unlawful, destructive and an abuse to your own body as well. Therefore, you must understand the purpose of your body, it actually belongs to God. So one of the ways you can respect God and your body, is to stay away from any immoral act, keep yourself pure, clean and be far from affairs outside your home.

However, if you are a single, this should not be an opportunity misused. But rather an opportunity to prepare yourself for the future and plan your goals in life.

YOUR BODY AND YOUR SPOUSE.

What do you think the government will do if a man is being charged with credit card fraud? Refund, prison or locked up? I guess one will do. But how about if God charges you with marriage fraud? God says it is a fraud when you use your body as a man or woman in sexual intimacy outside your matrimonial home. You are regarded as far as God is concern a fraudster of marriage.

Therefore it is your responsibilities as a man or woman to keep your body pure, sacred and special for your spouse only. That is marital fidelity. You must not deprive or defraud your spouse for whatever reason. When your spouse is been deprived of his or her sexual need or conjugal right, the beauty of marriage is mixed up with both bitterness and hatred. The man or the woman will be seeking for an opportunity to revenge, either by doing the same thing, or the worst thing. But when you understand that the body is not yours, it takes no effort or struggle to yield yourself to your spouse when occasion demands.

DO YOU DEFRAUD OR DEPRIVE?

Marriage has boundaries. As long as you are both joined together as one, you and your spouse must live within the boundaries of your marriage. Once you are joined together your bodies belong to each other. And none of you has any right over his or her body. You own equal rights over each others’ body.

Therefore, going out of the wall of your marriage to defraud another man’s wife or husband is a move beyond your boundaries. Even when the person you are defrauding is a single, you are already defrauding God who is preparing that woman for another man, and that man for another woman in future marriage.

You are only permitted to rule within the context of your boundaries. (i.e. you and your spouse). Don’t peep, sneak or snitch. Your boundary walls will always give a sign that you have been warned.

PUTTING AWAY- A serious issue.

When there is repeated refusal of conjugal sex in a marriage, couples are already digging the foundation of divorce. Depriving, denying or starving each other on the issue of sexual love is the greatest crime ever committed. Even God will not overlook it. Some men punished their wives by going all about with girlfriends. They let their wives see how better those ladies can be than them. They hide behind jobs, complaining of hectic day, extra time, night duties and some other tactics of immoral men. They often show that they are not interested in the woman as there are alternatives and many options. The man spends several nights outside hiding behind night duties without considering the woman’s feeling and emotion.

On the other hand, some women have punished their husbands severely in this area as well. They feel that it is an opportunity to catch the man. He begs and begs for him to have a taste of his right.

On the other hand, some women have punished their husband severely in this area as well. They often feel that is an opportunity to catch the man. Some even demands for instant cash if the man must have a taste. So he begs continually for him to have a feel or taste of his conjugal right. Even when she finally admits after much complains, terms and conditions, the man is very frustrated doing it. Why? Because it is so cold and dry, nothing is enjoyable. He is the only performer. He jacks with all frustrations and depressions, feeling enslaved to sex.

When this continues in a man’s life, it is called “defrauding and depriving”. It is a fraud. Not because you steal some cash but because you are depriving each other. The secret of marriage happiness lies in understanding that your bodies are meant for each other.

Vintage Adult Comics

As how they are obviously referred to, vintage adult comics are a reflection of ancient era or golden times. These are comics released in the 13th and 14th century and these days, they are difficult to get hold of. Other collectors aren’t just limiting themselves to the 1940-50′s collections, though. They follow until the 1970 releases of these comics.

Hundreds of comics were circulated in the golden age of magazines and literature. These materials were published using old kinds of papers. Vintage, as we hear of it, sounds valuable and rare. And yes, it definitely is rare to find some collections of books, magazines, comics or anything done five to seven decades ago.

The young adolescent and adult groups have let loose their inhibitions of browsing over these vintage adult comics that flaunt boldness, sexiness, sophistication and seventh heaven. The erotic side of life is presented in its creatively enticing manner through sexy pictures of women and passionate scenarios of couples in love and lust. There is no denying that men are continuous followers of these kinds of readable stuff. Sensual women are even getting open-minded to explore the so-called hobby but rarely do they declare such actuation.

As vintage comics like Batman, Flash Gordon, Superman, Green Lantern and Spiderman gained popularity back then, the emergence of vintage adult comics followed through their successes. Instead of heroic and funny themes, love and passion are usual concepts of the adult category of magazines and comics, that’s why they are for adults only. Thought not many people recognize it, comics are a serious business, too, just like movies, bars, Internet porn, among others.

Since the 1970′s, the worth of vintage adult comics has consistently multiplied due to their huge demand from investors and collectors. If you collect any of these vintage stuffs, you are likely to earn a good bit of dollars as they are usually appraised as valuable. It seems like a standard notion that if you own something vintage, you can benefit largely.

The approach employed in vintage adult comics is dependent on culture and lifestyle of a certain country it is being released. There are those that are too erotic that may not be appreciated by some. Basically, they’re identified to be of European, Japanese and American themes.

Vintage adult comics are usually of erotic conceptions and graphics, sometimes identified as artistic outputs of pornography. The sexuality of both men and women in the same setting is depicted as real as it can be to educate and stimulate the senses of the readers. Sensuality in a human being is but normal as long as it is done within grounds of matrimony. However, the world has accepted reality that bites, thus there isn’t any critical judgment aimed to those enjoying the art of making love out of marriage.

Understanding the Mind Structure of the Man and the Woman Regarding Sexual Love

Understanding the man – The mind structure.

As a wife, you need to understand why your husband is always at alert. Never a dull moment. It is as if the man is ever ready. Anytime is convenient. The reason is that, the way the mind of a man operates is different from that of the woman. A man cannot find it difficult to suspend any matter in other to turn to you for sex. For example, you would expect a man who is coming home with the bad news of business breakdowns, debt and sack letter not to even have time for sex. Right? Wrong. Even when he just heard that his mother died five minutes ago, he may come asking for sex few hours later. That may sound very odd to you. You may even question him; don’t you care about your mum? No he cares. It is just that the issues on his mind are rearranged.

You should understand as a woman that the arousal of a man is very quick, because it does not take time for him to pull the issues, challenges and worries from the shelf of his mind and replace it with another. This is possible because the mind structure of the man is is in form of compartments”. It is then easier for him to remove or replace issue with another. That is why during sexual intercourse the man does not need to clear any issue whatsoever before he is ready and go. Even when there is several unresolved issue at hand, this cannot be a hindrance to what he wants at that moment.

Once he ejaculates, he can immediately jump into another discussion or mission as though nothing just happen. While the woman may still be on the bed relaxing herself, the man is already doing another thing. Some men can rise up immediately and get dressed up to go for the next assignment on their schedules. However, the woman will not do that. While the readiness for sex in a man is very sharp and quick, the woman is slow and takes time. Therefore as a woman, or rather as a wife you need to study the body and mind structure of your husband. How he can quickly and easily switch on and off any issue and be ready to have sex. You must then be ready to dance to his tune, prepare yourself instead of engaging in other discussion that seem unnecessary to the man. If you are not sensitive to what he wants that time, and you are just busy talking to him, your whole discussion may be as if you are pouring water into a basket.

If you want to continue to have that man around, you must learn how to be short in details. Some men do not have time for long discussion because of their time and schedules. Once they are around, they want to discuss only serious and important issues and not menial ones. You are likely to miss his contribution as your discussion or explanation becomes too lengthy. He may not give relevant contribution and response to all your complains and discussion. He can just say” Well that’s ok”. And you wonder what is the relevant of “ok” in all you have said? The reason is because in his heart he is not with you. Likewise during sex, when you are not hitting the real matter the man is not with you. Therefore as a wife, you must understand the structure of the man and his mind.

Understanding the woman – The mind structure.

This is the other side of the coin. The mind structure of the woman towards sex is different. In fact it is differently different and uniquely unique from that of the man. While the mind structure of the man is in form of “compartments”, the structure of a woman’s mind is like a “storey building”. You cannot get to the last floor without passing through the first floor. Therefore, if on the first floor of her mind she keep the children school fees and rent dues there, it is impossible for the man to get to the fifth floor where sex is kept. The woman may continue to talk about an event of yesterday and at the same time joining her discussion with school fees, house rent, and her daughter’s birthday party. While the man is responding in his heart with words like” can you just round up this discussion and let’s have some fun? My body is already hot for it. Even if your body is freeze for it, you must clear those issues for her to be ready. Even though, the man is bored already the woman will continue to talk about the matter. Therefore, you need to understand the mind of the man.

For you to enjoy sexual intercourse with her, you must clear those pile of issues before she can be ready for you. You have to settle her for her to be settled for you. When a woman is not ready, you cannot enjoy her no matter your effort. One of things a woman wants from a man is communication and contribution. Conversational discussion is very crucial to the woman. However, men do not speak in detail, but women are very detailed in words. They do not speak in summary.

A man may come home and discuss the event of one week in just thirty minutes. But the woman can start her conversation from how she packed her load form the house to the motor park, and from there talk about her experience in a traffic jam, long hours journey and other stuffs. Moreover, when three hours is gone already it is like a three minutes discussion to the woman. She is so excited telling stories even if the man is slumbering at the moment. However a man must understand that this is how the woman’s mind is designed to function. Issues are not settled easily as expected. She require more time from her husband because she wants the man’s engagement in the matter.

However a man must not be too lengthy in her words. Your willingness to welcome the man might be an opportunity for you to be listened to. Allow the man (your husband) to fondle with your body even while you are discussing a serious matter with him. In addition as the husband as well you must try to find something to grasp from her mouth in other to give relevant advice and contribution. Make necessary contribution in the process while you are also consciously preparing her for the sexual act.

Women do not appreciate men whose busyness and business has taken them far or away from their affections, feelings and love-life. They always want their men to be there when they need them.

The process and the act.

Having discussed the purpose of sexual act in marriage and mind structure of both the man and the woman. We need to go on further to talk about the sexual act itself. We cannot try to dodge this aspect lest we put ourselves in the dark of the whole matter. Without any repetition of we have discussed earlier, I must still say that sexual communion in marriage begins with the general knowledge of each other’s body. The body is a slave to the mind, while the mind controls the operation. They are both like the drive and the driver. They work together to make a progress in the operation. However, this article is not focusing on oral sex or any style and posture. Whichever way is convenient for both couples is good. It has to be your agreement together.

Sometimes, making a woman ready for sexual intercourse can be tiring. Knowing that you cannot enjoy her without her readiness, you must be patient with the process. Get me right, I am not saying that every time you want to have sex together you must pass through a routine work in order to do so. No. Sexual intimacy is not a one-way traffic. Just like communication is not one way, sex is not either.

There are several other things you can do to get your woman’s attention. Nevertheless, buying a woman’s favorites must not be targeted towards sex alone. You dont have to buy a shoe in other to win your wifes affection. Telling the woman how important she is to you can be a sure way to assure her of your love. A woman needs to be assured. You can begin your communication in the living room, bedroom, kitchen, garage, in your compound and wherever convenient. Some men communicate to their wives by buying a surprise package or her favorites, and present it with a warm kiss. With a soft and sexy voice you can say I love you babe, you are the best thing that ever happen to me.” You are already preparing the room for your target.

In this area, women know how to play their game to get the man mostly. Sometimes, a woman can arouse her husband by wearing a seductive dress in order to seduce the man to her. “Seductive” is used here instead of “attractive” because the woman’s primary aim is to distract the man and cause to concentrate on her. However, such seduction is only within the wall of their marriage. Therefore, a transparent or loosed dress worn by the woman can easily catch the man’s attention and arouse him quickly. As a woman, you must study your husband to know what sexually arouse him and draw him to your side whenever you need him. Some women prefer a charming piece of music to dance with, in order to attract the man.. At that time, if the man is sexually caught up in the same mood, his sexual organ bulges out to show arousal. However, this does not mean you can grasp the woman and start to penetrate. You must study the woman’s acceptance mentally physically and emotionally. Acceptance in the actual sense may be that the woman is still considering privacy. A married woman will not like an environment full of distraction while she is ready to have sex with her husband. She wants to be assured of privacy and concentration. Any eavesdropping or interruption by the children or other members of the family may spoil the whole excitement for her. It is then important for the man to study the woman’s readiness. A normal married woman will not condone sex that is public to other eyes.

Nevertheless, while privacy is of great importance to the woman, some men are less concerned about that. Privacy or no privacy is not a barrier to their mission. Like the man, the woman must also be ready to accept the man. Once you accept the man, you can find a way to tell him what to do. Some women enjoy fondling at the beginning, before they can open up for penetration. However, the man must not be in a hurry or rush. The ejaculation may be fast and thereby forfeit the whole experience. Let it be slow and steady, considering the woman’s enjoyment as well. When men ejaculate quickly before the woman starts to enjoy the act, it leads to frustration. The woman may not be able to feel the excitement as when started. The man is quickly tired and his sexual organ (the penis) comes down.

You can control your quick ejaculation by trying to pause along the way, wait for few seconds and continue again. Always tell your wife to stop whenever you want to do so.

When you are through, I mean after ejaculation, don’t be in a hurry. Relax and discuss together. Woman like placing her head on her husband’s chest to show the sense of belonging. I hope you will find this article useful in your love-life especially in your marriage. Continue to spice up your spouse.

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